Do you ever feel like you just can’t stop fighting?
Some days it feels like I fight to get out of bed, to style my hair, to dress well, to get through the work day. I fight to get in a workout, cook dinner, eat healthfully throughout the day, to write everything or edit everything or answer all the emails and phone calls that I need to.
This past weekend, I had 10 items or so on my to-do list. It was a little daunting, some of the things I needed to accomplish. But Friday afternoon I decided I wasn’t going to attempt to get it all done. And it was OK! I chose the things I felt were most important — laundry was included in that list! — and then I fought the guilt.
The guilt that comes when you see there’s still six items left to do, and it’s Sunday night (or Monday, in this case), and you’ve run out of time. The guilt that makes me wonder, Will I have enough time to get these things done throughout the week? Or next weekend?
Here’s the thing, though: It’s OK if it doesn’t get done right away. Yes, certain things have to be done. I mean, you need clean underwear.
But this weekend I chose to spend quality time with my husband and friends. I chose to see movies, go out to lunch, and I even went for a walk in the beautiful sunshine, rather than vacuum upstairs.
And as much as that to-do list was nagging me, I’m learning to breathe deeper and let that stuff go sometimes. Don’t get me wrong — I’m goal oriented, I get my work done on time, and I’m ambitious. But I also need to give myself permission to relax.
We all do.
This week, take a look at your to-do list. Prioritize the items that will make you feel best. Can you cook an easier dinner so you can spend more time with your child playing or helping with her/his homework? Can you put off washing the sheets so you can take advantage of a nice day and go for a walk? Can that blog post get written while you watch TV with your hubby, so you have time to sit with him after work and talk about your day?
Multitasking and to-do lists are all great things that, let’s face it, help women get all that we get done each and every day.
But focused attention on our loved ones, and things that are good for ourselves — like time to work out, cook a meal, read or meditate — are even more important than crossing that next thing off the list.
Let me know in the comments what you plan to cut out this week, and what you will do instead! Do you ever give yourself permission to toss your to-do list, guilt-free?