Stop calling other women “skinny bitch” or “fat bitch.”
In the wake of the fat-shaming video that went viral that I wrote about in my last post, I had the not-so-pleasant experience of reading the comments under this particular video as well as a few response videos and blog posts. One of the things that struck me is that people just love name-calling. In one breath someone can ask for acceptance and say we should be treated equally, and then turn around and make fun of thin women and tell them to “go eat a burger.”
I will admit right now that I have said cruel things like this in my past. Probably more than once. And I’m not proud of it.
What’s sad is, when we start to say one body type is wrong or right, we forget about what we’re really fighting for: equality.
It’s true that bigger women are often made fun of; it’s proven that heavy women are even paid less. We’re not well represented in media. We’re not seen as beautiful by most of society.
But you know who else gets bashed? Super-skinny women. Flat-chested women. Women with flat butts. Women with larger butts. Women with natural hair. Women who wear extensions. Women with acne. With moles. With disabilities.
It’s never-ending. Sadly, very few women, if any, are immune to judgments based on their appearance. Few are applauded for their successes without comments made about their bodies or clothes or hair or makeup.
I’ve always been a proponent of paying attention to fashion and feeling good about yourself when you look in the mirror. Like it or not, first impressions do matter. But I also advocate wearing clothes that make you feel good about yourself — don’t do it for someone else. And that feeling of confidence is something I whole-heartedly believe ALL women can attain — no matter their perceived flaws, real or imagined.
The truth is, I want to live in a world where women of all types can celebrate one another and stop tearing each other down. We have enough to deal with internally with the pressures of society, we could at least hope for the solidarity of other women to join us and say we are enough. My body, my hair, my face, my mind, my talents, are enough.
Let’s stop pinning women of different sizes against one another. It’s not skinny women v. heavy women. Women of the world need to rise together and stand up for their own self-worth, and that of the woman standing next to them.