Sometimes having a positive body image feels like it’s impossible.
For the past few weeks, I’ve felt as big as a house. Like, literally felt like I was walking around resembling a very large Holstein cow. Now, Holsteins are actually quite cute, so this is no dis to them. I’ve just felt … not happy with myself. Pretty terrible thoughts to have, no? And I knew it. I knew it was destructive to think that way. I knew I didn’t deserve to hear those negative voices. I was just having a really hard time shutting them out.
Thankfully, by yesterday I was feeling a lot better about myself and my positive body image was stronger. The destructive thoughts were quieted, I walked with my head held higher and I generally felt healthier, inside and out.
How did that happen? Well, here are three things that came my way over the past weekend that just so happened to be a recipe for self-confidence and body positivity. And here’s how you can harness them to help you, too.
- Learn from your tribe. Last week when I was feeling particularly low, a lot of amazing things were happening to members of the See Jane Write group for women bloggers that I belong to. I started paying attention to how they represented themselves. What I learned from two bloggers in particular — Jeniese and Artney — is to be proud of who you are, and don’t be shy about sharing your journey and showing off your body. Jeniese of The Jenesaisquoi appeared in a Macy’s advertisement that was shown in Times Square in New York City! And Artney of My Pretty Brown Fit appeared in Weight Watchers Magazine with a very positive message to share: “I may not have a six-pack, but I’m doing my best by being active and making healthier choices, and that’s what matters.” I love this body positivity!
- Dress the part! One of my favorite quotes from Mindy Kaling is when she said “Sometimes you’ve just gotta put on lip gloss and pretend to be psyched.” She’s so right! After a long week last week, I wasn’t really feeling like showing up, for anything, but Saturday I got dressed up and attended a fashion show at Belk hosted by Christina of Pink Lux. And I’m so glad I did! Not only did the women there make me feel good about myself, but I also felt happy to cheer on the inbetweener and plus-size models and hopefully help them feel good about themselves. It was great to see so many people practicing positive body image!
- Just move it! There’s no doubt that a good workout can make me feel strong, inside and out. I felt the urge to go for a good hike Sunday, and I’m so glad I did because I explored a new-to-me trail and really worked at walking at a good pace, climbing up rocks and over limbs and up hills. It was a beautiful day outside and the therapeutic benefit of being outside enjoying the spring day is hard to express. It’s amazing what a fitness routine can do for my positive body image.
So that’s my recipe for getting your positive body image back! What do you do when you’re feeling low?