If you follow my blog at all regularly, then you know I’m a huge advocate for loving yourself, loving your body, just as it is — even if you consider yourself a work in progress.
But sometimes I know what you’re thinking when you read these posts: It just isn’t that easy.
I know what you’re thinking because I think it, too.
There are days when I just feel icky. I feel bloated or my hair is flat or I have a couple pimples on my chin or I can’t find a darn thing to wear, even though my closet is bursting with great clothes. There are days when everything I do is just wrong. At work earlier this week, no matter how many emails I answered, I had four more waiting for me. My Slack messages were pinging away, I had texts coming in that I couldn’t reply to fast enough and I just needed to turn everything off for an hour so I could actually get some editing done. Not to mention that my car was at the shop for a new tire and wheel — hello $263 I wasn’t expecting to spend!
Compared to many people’s ups and downs, my issues are extremely minor. But I know how overwhelming life can feel sometimes, and to say that you should also feel confident, sassy and invincible? Ha! We’re really just trying to survive!
Some days you just don’t feel like being positive — much less body positive. Maybe you’re unhappy with your weight or you’ve missed a few workouts or you haven’t been preparing meals like you want to. Maybe you’re just not feeling your clothing choices or you have laundry piling up.
My advice? Take a deep breath. Seriously. In and out, slowly. Now get a piece of paper and ask yourself:
- What is making me feel down?
- What can I do about it?
While I may not have the answers for a hectic day at work, and I can’t repair your car, I can tell you that when it comes to how you’re feeling about yourself, about your body, there are steps you can take to build yourself back up.
Find 15. Look at your schedule and try to fit in some time every day, even just 15 minutes, to work on one thing that’s making you feel down.
Get active. If you need more activity — because it’s part of your fitness and health efforts or for stress relief — do something, anything, no matter how small. Take a walk, do a short yoga video, make a date with a friend to meet at the gym. Schedule it in.
Fashion first. You know one of my mottos is “fake it till you make it!” So use fashion to help put some pep in your step! Squeeze in a load of laundry — get a load going while dinner is cooking and fold it while you watch a TV show. Also, think about what outfit you want to wear the night before, so you can pull your pieces together, from shoes to undergarments to jewelry, and you’ll be ready to go in the morning.
Shop & prep. If you need groceries, stop on your way home from work or even go during your lunch break and stash your goodies in the break room fridge. While dinner is cooking at night, prepare the next day’s breakfast and lunch. Stash snacks in your desk drawer at work, or in the fridge, so you have something to grab throughout the week.
Believe me, I know it’s hard to feel good about yourself when you feel like you have no time to accomplish the things that help you feel good about yourself. Feeling body positive takes work, in my opinion. It’s not something that just happens for me — it’s something that comes together when I take the time to do these little things. These things help me feel prepared, help me feel confident and help me face whatever the world has for me throughout the day.
When I have these little things in order, I know I can take on the bigger things. So don’t let a crazy, busy week — or a crazy, busy life! — get in the way of feeling good about yourself. Carve out those little bits of time each day, and feel positive!