I’m not sure when I started thinking about New Year’s resolutions in a different way, but I’m pretty sure it was Javacia, founder of See Jane Write, the women’s blogging group I belong to, who inspired me to choose a word instead of spelling out specific goals like “lose weight.” I really like this approach because I think it provides motivation year-round and feels more encompassing — like taking your mind, body and spirit into account.
This year I do have some specific goals I want to work on, and I want to check in here regularly to keep focused on how I’m doing. Each of my goals fits into the three following words. Here’s to a productive, fun- and love-filled 2018, for all of us!
I gave birth four months ago, and I still feel like my body is recovering from the c-section. I’ve gone to Torque a few times in the last month, but I want to start going two to three times a week, as my work schedule and Penny allow. The thing is, my lower belly still gets sore quite often. It’s just achy. Getting up and down off the floor, I think, is the hardest task for me. Gaining strength at Torque can only improve this, as long as I don’t push it too fast and injure myself. So working out to feel more nimble is a big goal for me in 2018.
I’d be lying if I failed to mention that weight loss is also a goal. I’m a big believer in loving yourself, but I also don’t deny that there’s a certain way I feel more comfortable in my own skin and right now I’m not in that place. My ultimate goal? Lose 80 pounds. There. I said it. That’s the number in my mind and would get me back to a place where I felt really good. While working out at Torque will help, I’ll be working hard on cooking more and making better food choices to get to this goal.
I’m doing this for me, for how I feel about my body, but also for my daughter. I want to be able to do all the things I need to, and want to, physically so that nothing holds me back from being the mom she deserves. This is the real fuel for me this year, and when it comes to health that also includes things like not skipping doctor appointments. While I was pregnant I was a stickler for getting to all my OB appointments, but I neglected the dentist and eye doctor. No more! I’m making those appointments right away.
This year I want to focus on cutting some things out, when I need to, so I can be more present in whatever I’m doing. I don’t think women can make it through the day without multitasking — it’s in our DNA. But I am trying to focus more on the one thing that’s in front of me. Here’s a few ways I will try to be more present:
1. Put the phone down when playing with Penny. She already gets a little testy when I pick it up, and I’d never want her to feel like she has to compete for my attention.
2. Close unnecessary windows while at work. Do you ever get distracted by Facebook or Twitter or personal email when you’re on the clock? I want to give myself a few minutes in the morning, noon and afternoon for this but otherwise, log off.
3. Put the phone in my purse, in the backseat, out of reach while I drive. I’m never tempted to reach for my phone while Penny is in the car, but I do it too often when she’s not. I need to get home safely, as does everyone else on the road, so it’s time to break this bad habit.
I just ordered Emily Ley’s “A Simplified Life,” which I hope will have great tips to help me be more present and focused!
I’ve been struggling lately, especially in the workplace, with doubting my worth. I question choices I’ve made career-wise, and I fear I suffer from Imposter Syndrome (when you feel like you’re just faking it and doubt you really know what you’re doing).
But the fact is, as a writer and editor, I know what I’m doing. I can always learn more — and I always hope to continue my education in my chosen field. But I do have 16 years of experience in journalism/communications — it’s time I see the value in that experience and what I can bring to the table.
The same goes for other areas of my life — instead of doubting myself as a mother, wife, homeowner, daughter, sister, aunt, friend, I need to recognize my worth and stop doubting myself so much.
What are your goals for 2018? Do any of these words work for you, too?